"To love is to suffer. To avoid suffering one must not love. But then one suffers from not loving. Therefore to love is to suffer, not to love is to suffer. To suffer is to suffer. To be happy is to love. To be happy then is to suffer. But suffering makes one unhappy. Therefore, to be unhappy one must love, or love to suffer, or suffer from too much happiness. I hope you’re getting this down.” - Woody Allen
No before anybody jumps to the wrong conclusions...I am not in love, well not in that sense, I love my family and friends lots, but no I have not yet met that special one...however, this has led me to examine the question...yes the one we all think about from time to time, well I do...and so I have decided to impart a little of my wisdom.....
What is True Love?
Is it 'the real thing', temporary insanity, or a cruel myth? Lets take a look at true love…… aaaaahhhh......
Does it really exist?
LOVE is not a feeling.... Love is an action...... Love is a choice.
True Love is the action to choose unconditionally in the process of offering to another human being the qualities of:
Affection, Care, Concern, Respect, Thoughtfulness, Forgiveness, Compassion, Trust, Joy and many other positive emotional expressions of value and worth toward ANY living being as being loveable and valuable.
Removing life support for a dying loved one......
In every example, Love is an action through choice.....
When you see each other and have a smile on your face, when your loved one makes a mistake and you can’t get angry on him/her even when you try hard. When you think of spending every possible time with your loved one.
Yes this is true love..........
“True love” can and will differ from person to person based on emotional maturity. To know true love you not only must love in such a way that you would give your own life at the drop of a hat to save him/her, but you must be loved in return.
“We always believe that our first Love is our last, and our last Love is our first.”
If you get married to someone, and fifteen years later, you can still look them in the eye and feel the same you did on your first date, then it’s true love. Like I said in the quote above; a good way to know true love is to base it on how you feel for the last person you loved romantically in your life.
I can recall when I had this love and how I used to get choked up telling her how much I cared about her......
* the pain I felt every time she hurt.
* every couple I saw reminded me of her.
* everything I wanted to do I wanted to do with her.
* if I had a craving for something I craved it with with her.
* it still excited me when she called.
* telling each other we loved each other meant more each time.
* I knew that I loved her more on that day than I did the day before.
* her beauty in my eyes never faded.
* we could disagree and compromise with each other.
True love is very hard to find and extremely painful to lose, can be the best thing that happens to you or the worst, can drive you crazy or keep you sane, can destroy lives or save them, can stop wars or start them, can clarify or confuse, pushes and pulls people away, obvious and subliminal, is impossible to define
* When one is aware of shortcomings of the partner and yet accepts.
* When the ego does not come in between in differences and one would rather clear the air, or apologise and patch up, than break-up.
* When one ‘desires’ the partner inspite of not ‘needing’ or ‘wanting’ the other.
* When you ‘chose’ to be with him/ her inspite of other options - not because there are no options !
* When you give each other space and respect individuality.
* When you enjoy togetherness - talking or even silence - and tender touching.
* When you cant even think of hurting or insult the partners feeling.
That's true love....... Maybe too idealistic ? !!
And it may or may not mean that it is reciprocated. It could be unrequited for all you know. But yet the memories bring a spring to the step and a smile on your face. You never wish him/ her ill and would never harm in any way.
These are just a few points which come to my mind but there is so much more n more n more.
Like true love the topic is also ‘endless’.
I sincerely hope that before my life ends that I can once again experience this most magical of feelings and that all my friends and family be blessed with the experience of feeling it too....
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